Self esteem and dating for teens

Posted by / 28-Jul-2017 22:48

So, the kids in those families don’t really know where the boundaries are any given day.Like landing in a mine field, they don’t know what step to take for fear it will set off their parents.The kids I’ve met with the lowest self-esteem and the least self-control are those who either have never experienced boundaries or whose parents use punishment as the only means of communicating boundaries.Such parents tend to shift their punishment (and the boundaries) based on how their own day is going or how frustrated they are with life, their spouse, or their children.Likewise, when a teen is allowed to drive the car, perhaps they are told they must be home by dark, not have any other teens in the car, and they must not drive any further than a certain distance away from home.Those qualifications for the use of the car are boundaries.As adults, we can’t just haul off and whack someone over the head if we don’t like them.

It’s like the difference between keeping a horse on a lead rope and letting him run freely in a fenced pasture.And we can’t spend our mortgage payment money on new sporting gear instead.Well, we can, but should we do so, we will face consequences.How and where the teen drives within those boundaries is up to them, as long as they follow other imposed boundaries, such as traffic laws.We all have boundaries in our lives, so teens need to get accustomed to them.

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